Let's Get Enjoy Working With Your Colleagues

Hi everybody,

Topic for today is as you can see above. Well, working in an unhealthy environment seems a big burden to all. Everybody desire a good and enjoyable working environment. A good and nice colleagues to get along with. But, not all manage to get what they desired. In fact, it's really frustrated when you already tried plenty of methods to make your relationship much better with people around you or specifically your colleagues, but it seems not working at all. 

And final frustrated is when you need to resign immediately because you don't have any choices left and make yourself become unable to pay your debt and any other expenses. God, such a frustration and miserable for you when your colleagues ruin your life like that! Indeed, if you've given a chance to kill them with elephant gun, I'm sure you will shoot the person that ruin your life right? hahaha.. 

But, hey check this out. Read and check it for you to identify your behavior towards your colleagues. If you found that you are a bad one, please please please, change yourself and make other people life or specifically your colleagues life comfortable working in the company as well as with you. Don't be so arrogant even though you have been worked for the company much longer than the others. Be nice to everybody and remember all you have now it's all temporary. 

So, here are the list of effective verbal communications with your colleagues :

• Clarity

Be as clear and as specific as possible in all verbal communications and especially when you are asking someone to carry out a task for you. While that person do the task and he / she ask a question regarding the task you've given, do not hesitate to listen and answer with mannerly. Avoid saying a harsh words like "you think?" because it reflects your swagger.

• Summarize

If you are not sure that people understand you, either summarize what you have said in different words, or ask them to summarize your message in their own words. Avoid showing your stress face to him / her just because they don't understand what you want. In fact, you're making things more complicated and uncomfortable.

• Observe Responses

Observe response to your message. What people are thinking is not always expressed verbally. Read people's thoughts by watching their facial expressions, hand and foot gestures. Look at their eyes for signs of confusion, disagreement, disbelief, resistance or understanding.   

Look for subtle hints from the colleague, look for what are they not saying, observe how well are they paying attention when you speak. Modify your responses accordingly and attempt to build a good understanding of the issues.

• Use of Voice

To keep people's attention, modulate your voice. Speaking more loudly or softly, more quickly or slowly increases interest in what you say. Pause before and after a key point to allow it to fully register. If there is a background noise, speak loudly or move to a quieter area. Reinforce verbal communication, especially in noisy areas, with gestures. Help the colleague feel comfortable speaking to you, avoid criticizing what they are saying, even in your own mind. Stay calm and attempt to diffuse any full scale arguments before they start.

• Eye Contact

Maintain eye contact with those to whom you are talking. Bear in mind their cultural background. In some cultures, excessive eye contact is a sign of disrespect. If you avoid eye contact, people will get impression you don't want to communicate with them.

• Emphasize Important Points

To communicate an important point, raise your voice slightly or speak deliberately. Let your body language reflect the importance of what you are saying by leaning forward, opening your eyes wider, and using appropriate hand gestures. Pay attention and avoid interruptions. Don't hold two conversations at the same time. Do some jokes to obtain more interest and use meaningful analogies or stories to emphasize main points. And don't forget to ask a question.

• Positivity

Begin conversations positively. If there is potential for conflict, start off with something on which you both agree to set a positive atmosphere. Think positive because your positive mind will lead you to a positive behavior and makes people around you comfortable.

• Choose your words

Avoid harsh and  impolite words when you talk to your colleagues. It doesn't matter if you are in a bad mood or stress, avoid throwing your bad mood to other people because it will makes things getting worst. Don't make your mood as a reason for you to spill out the impolite words to others. Not all people tend to accept the way you talk especially when you are working with more than one races because different races surely have different culture and the way they speak. So, be polite to anyone.

• Avoid saying Negative things

Do not say negative things about your colleagues especially when they're not around. That reflect you as a gossip and someone who can't be trusted. You may think you're being entertaining closeness, but you meet the same people on the way up as the way down.

        "A high-morale work environment will always produce more than a low-morale work environment." When people care about the people they work with, things get done faster. "People will go the extra mile; they will take ownership of a job, a decision or problem and work through it without feeling like they have to go up the chain to get things done." ( Skip Weisman )

So guys, Good luck & all the best..

Resources: Creative Education, Forbes